Do you long for more authenticity?

As a young adult, I remember saying often, I am looking for inspiration.  

Something felt flat to me, though I did not have the words to explain what was wrong, or what I was looking for. 

Today I understand that back then I was looking for something that felt a bit more real, longing for a bit more authenticity in a culture where I saw much more admiration of accomplishments than love for others.  I was seeking more depth in my relationships - with other people and with life - and in reality, wanting to feel okay to be my authentic self.  

Are you wanting to cultivate deeper relationships? 

Today’s culture is defined by on-the-surface communication

short messages that don’t really ask or share what is really going on. 

When someone asks you, how are you, are they really wanting to hear your answer? 

When I ask someone else how she is, am I ready to listen deeply, with my whole body? 

It can be really difficult to cultivate meaningful relationships in a culture that is teaching us to be lonely machines. 

It can be really difficult to share authentically

when we aren’t sure if anyone is really listening. 

When was the last time you really felt safe to be truly vulnerable?

And how can we cultivate deep relationships if we aren’t able to be vulnerable with one another? 

I feel most safe when I can be most authentically myself. 

From the safety that authenticity offers me, I can lean into my relations.

What is getting in the way of the expression of your most authentic self? 

I can’t help but feel

that if we could be a little bit more authentic with one another

with ourselves

we might feel safer

and more deeply in alignment with love

rather than fear. 

If what I am saying here resonates with you and you’d like to explore more deeply together, you might be interested in working 1-1 in my mentoring program. 

Feel free to reach out to schedule a short call to feel into it together. 

I look forward to hearing from you.